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How To Get A Girl To Like You | My 8 Female-Approved Tips

// July 13th, 2009 // Seduction tips & strategies

Listen to this Privates, I was in a bar last night running lines on girls and infiltrating groups etc, when one semi-intelligent girl saw through my confidence and popped a very unexpected question. “Are you trying to pick me up?” I was taken aback, dumb struck for almost 2 seconds until I brazenly replied “yes I am trying to pick you up, but if it doesn’t workout with you I am going to move onto your less attractive friend, who keeps making eyes at me.” She loved it, what a come back! confident, self assured; whilst appearing uninterested in the outcome of my discussion with her The conversation moved to her opinions on about how to get a girl to like you.

Its easy to flip situations like this, you see? what a pro I am. I senced that this chick was the switched on type, am sure you have met a gal like this right? The ones you can actually hold a half decent monologue with. I then decided to go for the jugular and gain a bit of insight about how my lines and techniques appeared to her, ‘would you fall for this line…’ etc. It was amazing my Cadets this was major market research, a females opinion on my tactics, this is an SS exclusive, hold the phones!

Her opinions from all of my probing questions surprised me, some I expected but others gave great insight to the female mind, when being approached by us dudes. I really shouldn’t release these particular tips, as they seem hugely powerful jugging from my field-testing of them. So here goes Soldiers, my 8 tips on chatting up women from the female perspective:

1. The Dial-Switch Attraction Concept

Attraction from a male perspective is a flip switch that is either on or off, there is no halfway, she’s hot or she’s not, …simple. We all know It’s an aesthetics thing right? sure men are attracted to personality but that comes later doesn’t it? So you walk into a bar, you see a hottie and the switch is flipped on, its unlikely that the switch will reverse to off. She laughs like a deranged cat, talks like Kelly Ryan, and has the IQ of a gold fish but your still going to take her home with you for some horizontal line dancing aren’t you?…Yes!

Women are like your radio when it comes to attraction. They have to be dialled into your frequency, through words and trickery before they form an attraction to you. female’s form attraction in eight to twelve minutes. Use this time wisely Cadets!

Approach! strike up a conversation, the dial is at default. You say something funny or cheeky, the dial turns from 0 to 2. You talk about your love of heavy metal and the dial returns rapidly to 0 or maybe even -2. You drop a derogatory comment about her moody girlfriend sitting near, she agrees and the dial leaps to 5 …..great success!

The Dial-switch attraction concept goes like this. As you speak to a chick, picture her hand actually on this cosmic dial, and depending on what you say or do; she will callously turn your volume up or down, ok? While the dial may be travelling up or down we still have direct power to influence it and change her opinion of you at any time, cool huh? The good news, its never too late. Trust me! the trick is to feel out, what makes the dial go up then run with it. Decipher the tonality, content, and delivery of the conversation she like’s, reflect it and watch her attraction of you grow. Remember, this stuff has come directly from chicks and is gold dust, try it for yourself!

2.Three Seconds to Approach

Appraoch in three seconds or its K.O! Women have a spider sense to men’s interest of them. They will notice guys trying to pluck up the courage to talk to them. Chicks also find guys lurking and hovering around them ‘creepy’ and the label of ‘creepy’ means a death sentence to the us dudes on the prawl. I call my perspective competition ‘creepy’ to chicks I am picking up, it’s a great disqualifier try it.

Catch a girl’s eye! So, from that moment you have an interest in them,  you literally have three seconds to make your move and approach, or games off. I now, don’t even wait three seconds; I make my move immediately. You need to strike with the speed of a cobra soldiers, be decisive. If you do not make your approach in three seconds chicks will label you as a gutless pussie, simple fact, got it?

3. Talk Your Head Off

Learn to talk like women, but don’t play it gay. Scientific studies have determined that women speak roughly 20,000 words a day, compared to a less than respectable 7,000 from us dudes. You ever heard chicks on the phone nattering away about total bullshit for way too long? Or your cell phone has run dead and you’re forced to queue for a pay phone behind some selfish natter-box bitch for 20 minuets, you know what I mean? Women thrive on mass communication, and to be a successful seducer you must learn to spit more lyrics than Busta Rhymes. Prepare yourself to talk way more than usual to pick-up, mimic and dominate Privates!

4. Don’t Take Rejection Personally

Rejection isn’t bad? Would you listen to a guy on the bus, or in a store that told you; you sucked at your job? No, I would hope you would tell them to get screwed, better still smack him in the face. You should never take crap from people you don’t know Cadets! So you’re in a store, bar, or social gathering and you strike up a conversation with a super hot chick; it goes great but suddenly she flat out rejects you. WTF! cold hearted bitch that she is. Don’t give it a seconds thought, why let a total stranger make you feel unlikable or unattractive, its one persons opinion out of several million in your city right?

Learn from rejection. Nine times out of ten rejection has little or nothing to do with you, she may have had a bad day. She could be hormonal, hate a situation she’s in, have a boyfriend or just not like you for some small reason… or just be a stuck up bitch! Whatever the case her rejection of you is not a indicator of your value to her, the world, or the next chick that comes along; which you may take home, get a number from, or arrange to see again. Plenty more fish in the sea Soldiers. I think of women as a constant flow, if ones not for you, another is sure to float past. I have been rejected hard, then not twenty seconds later a better chick came alone, we had an instant connection, I totally forgot about the first. Believe it or not I have been rejected more times than a jock at the gay bar, you learn from your mistakes and improve for next time.

5. Go First or End Up Last

Be the first. Its human nature to reflect what is throw their way, no one wants to be in an uncomfortable or un-friendly situation right? Ever had those deathly uncomfortable silences? You need to be friendly. Ever approached a chick or group of chicks and acted like you were all old friends? it works a treat, they usually reflect your friendliness and sincerity. If you approach like an awkward stranger or freek, then you’re gona have a lonesome night. Going first asserts you as dominant, confident and ballsy, women like these characteristics.

Use NLP too. Another great tip here is to try to take control of a group, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) is a great tool for just this. Join a group, listen to the volume, tone and content of discussion, mimic it then slowly raise your volume, body language dominance, confidence and hand gestures; watch how quickly you become the centre of attention. Now you dominate the group, what would you like to do now? I will talk more of the power of NLP another time.

6. Strong Direction

Be strong and take strong direction Cadets. Men aren’t naturally sexist, and although this techniques sound sexist its not. Take control of the date situation, don’t give too much away, try and keep the destination and activity of the date secret until the very last minute; keep some mystery, plan in advanced.

Women like strong, powerful men, gently assert you’re dominance where ever possible; do not be aggressive or arrogant, big, big turn off Soldier. An example: when you enter a bar, or restaurant guide her into the door by placing a hand on her hips, or arm. If you go to another bar, you should be the one to talk to the guys on the door to see if its good inside. You to take a cab back to hers, you should be the one that jumps into the road to hail one, be chivalrous don’t be a douche bag, or hand bag… get it? man up and take strong direction.

7. The “so what?” Deflection Tactic

Read the signals. A sure signal that a chick’s into you is when she starts to put you down, bust your balls or tease you. When this happens, I hear a ding of a bell and the words ‘game time’ rattle through my synapses. So when a girl speaks negatively of you, agree with her, and add to the insult.

Example:

Her: “Those pants make you look really gay”

You: “ Yeh I know, all the guys have been squeezing my arse all night so am sure to go home with someone tonight huh?”

Or

Her: “Is this your pickup line then?”

You: “Yes, it seemed to work on your mother last night, is it working on you?”

Try this type of deflection works really well, particularly with hot or successful women who do not expect a witty come back. With a bit of practise you will become unputdownable, its allot of fun. I have evolved this concept to reverse the insult back at them, with harsh ferocity and huge success, trust me!

Example:

Her: “That shirt you have on sucks”

You: “Yeh I know but at least its not as bad as your dress, 3 other girls are in here wearing the same one, they all look hotter than you”

Listen up! this has a high risk, if you miss-deliver it, it will spell disaster, you will then find yourself dowsed in a Margarita with a slapped face…trust me here. Judge the situation, and her sense of humour, if you plan on dropping one of these. That being said I have had a good success rate with such a put down.

8. Bitch or Cautious

Why do women decide? In our society women our the gatekeepers of romantic interactions and sexual occurrences correct? Trust me on this, they are the ones who ultimately decide weather sex is or isn’t going to take place, in this nightclub toilet or not. That gives them the upper hand, and they will try play us with their sexuality to get what they want. You’ve heard of the chick flirting outrageously with her boss for a raise right? Same shit. Women hold this power, until we do the dead then the power shifts to the male, hurray! So think about that next time a chick is being sheepish with you, they are just trying to protect themselves.

So there you have it Privates, inside the head of a female, be warned use this stuff at your own risk… its hugely powerful. A big thank you to Nikki (half intelligent girl from that bar last night) for this incredible insight, I shall bed you next time our paths cross!

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